REDIRECTING

In my past two posts we tried to see why we gained all this weight. So now what?
I believe the answer lies in the present and future rather than the past. By looking for the love and comfort we got as kids we're trying to recreate the past.

We all want love and to be accepted and part of people around us. We may have had that as children but we are not children anymore, and we don't have the same people around us now. Even if we have our parents, they are not the same. They have their own lives now that we are adults. Our wants haven't changed though, so let's use that drive to deal with the present instead.

The first thing that happens when we start to loose weight is that people notice we look a little better, a little thinner and they will comment on it. Besides us feeling better, we are now getting attention from people that know us, and that feels real good because it's positive attention.

So let's try to focus on that. As I see it, we still have two huge hurdles before we can get there.

Before we talk about those hurdles, there is still the matter of why and how we got this way. There is another group of fat people, and I do believe they are a small group, but you may be one of those who overeats simply because they love the taste of food and are more concerned with the pleasure they get from their favorite food, rather than the pleasure they get from feeling better thinner, or feeling better from positive attention from others.

These people may have resigned themselves to be alone, and are fat and happy, and they may feel healthy enough to say," leave me alone I like myself the way I am ".

There is no can't, there is only want and desire. You either want something bad enough or you don't. If you don't, find out why.

For some of us there is a moment of clarity. Mine was when my daughter offered to pay me to not eat, because she knows I am ill and that the obesity is killing me.